(Hey everyone, so this WAS written on Sunday. But then Wiggles got REALLY sick. Long story short, we went to the hospital, she's fine now, but my post is a little late.)
Appreciating my Husband: I fail so badly.
51 ways to show him I love him.
You see this photo? There is a very specific reason I chose this photo for this post. It's not because I look great in it, or because it's some magical thing my kids did that I think the whole world should gawk at. No, I chose this photo because it, it's little bitty self, a bunch of pixels on a screen, so sums up my husband.
He's got my daughter in one arm, his arm wrapped around my son with his other.. and his elbow is holding me up from toppling on the floor. And he looks so HAPPY to be right there, being the glue holding us together.
That is who my husband is. He is the rock every person in my house leans on.
He is the smile on my childrens face everyday at 3:30 when he gets off work. He is play time, and prayer time, and that soft voice after they've been rebuked by his hard voice. He is snuggle time and love.
For me? He is my rock. My calm in the storm. My voice of reason when my emotional side is out in la-la land ignoring half the facts. He is the one single person who I can honestly say gets me. All of me. Who knows my weaknesses, and who isn't afraid to tell me. The person who looks at me and in one question tears down my facade and sees where I'm struggling, and isn't afraid to poke a bit to get me back on track, especially when it comes to my spiritual walk.
My husband is, I'm convinced, the entire reason God brought me all the way out to Ontario. Because the person he is making me... needs this man beside her. Not only as her mate, but as her friend, and accountability partner. This man, in all his craziness, draws me closer to the Lord everyday. Like no one else has. Through being with him... my being with Christ has become richer and more deep than any other time in my life. Why? Because HE leans on Christ. His whole world is permeated with the love of Jesus, and he wants nothing more than to see Christ glorified in my life.
I love that about him.
Now, here's the funny thing. I find it really hard to tell him these things. I find it really hard to sit down and express these things to him out loud. Sure, I can write them here... but practically putting them into actions is HARD.
So this is my brainstorm if you'd like, of things to do for my husband to help him feel more appreciated. I'm going to make a list of 51. One every week for a whole year. And I'm going to do them all. Why? Because he deserves to know how much we love him.
Some of these will involve our children, some not. I'll choose at the beginning of each week which I'm gonna do, and I'll cross them off my list. By this week next year, I'll have done all of them. I'll keep you guys filled in on the progress made. Please note: Not all of these will be things will be things that he will notice at first. Some of these things... are things that will just make his life easier. That's part of this. My husband works hard at a physically intensive job. Doing small things to make his life easier is one way I can show him I love him.
Some of these are repeated. This is because these are things I know he really appreciates.
1: Place at least one note a day around the house of things I appreciate about him.
2: Send the kids to a babysitter for the night, make his favourite meal, plus his favourite dessert, and have us time.
3: Have a 'I love Daddy' day with Flash and Wiggles. Make handprint Christmas ornaments, and write something they love about their dad on the other side.
4: Don't ask him to do anything the entire week. Let him walk in the house and do nothing but sit. If he offers, say no, he deserves to rest.
5. Enter every contest I can to get spitz(Sports team around here) tickets. Hopefully get some. Surprise him with a sports night for him and I. Don't complain of how long the game is taking.
** If I can't get tickets, we will watch an nfl(Bengals) game at home, and I will make nachos and cheese, and try to cheer for the right team. XD
6. Make a solid effort to never interrupt him while he is speaking, the entire week. (I'm really bad for this and it's one of his biggest pet peeves.)
7: Have the house clean everyday when he gets home, no matter what it takes. He loves coming home to a clean house.
8: Give him back rubs. Do some research on massage. Give him one every night.
9: Get dressed up. Everyday. Do my makeup, get well dressed, shave, do my hair, everything. If he asks, let him know it's for him.
10: Make him a coupon book full of favours and things he loves.
11: Take time to cuddle with him at least once a day.
12: Praise him verbally at least once a day.
13: Make his favourite cookies.
14: Clean the car out while he's at work.
15: Find ways to touch him. His hand, his back... anything. Be extra aware of touch this week.
16: Make all three of his favourite meals. have them ready for him when he walks in the door.
17: Don't complain. Let a whole week go by where only pleasantness passes your lips.
18: Have a wii night with the kids. Talk to the kids before hand and let him choose all the levels and things.
19: Send the kids to a babysitter for the night, make his favourite meal, plus his favourite dessert, and have us time.
20. Find ways to touch him. His hand, his back... anything. Be extra aware of touch this week.
21: Praise him verbally at least once a day.
22: Get dressed up. Everyday. Do my makeup, get well dressed, shave, do my hair, everything. If he asks, let him know it's for him.
23: Give him back rubs. Do some research on massage. Give him one every night.
24: Watch a game with him. Be interested.
25: Kiss him. Everywhere. Anywhere. Take time at least once a day to kiss him outside of our normal good bye kisses.
26: Get a babysitter. Have us time, even if that means just sitting on the couch and watching a movie cause we're so exhausted.
27: Save up the pennies. Take him for dinner on me.
28: Do a chore he normally does to make your life easier. For me this is laundry. It's hard for me going up and down the stairs while pregnant, so he does it. But he hates laundry. So I'll do it for a week, hopefully getting it all done, so he doesn't have to.
29: Get up before he does and have breakfast ready before he goes to work. For those of us who are night owls, this one might be a big sacrifice. :)
30: Tell your kids the things you love about him. In front of him, and not.
31: Clean the entire house as a surprise for him. Enlist the kids if possible, have them make a sign telling Daddy how much they love him.
32: Let him nap. In fact, insist he naps. At least once this week. :)
33: Spend a night watching his favourite show. Specifically one you hate. Don't complain, smile and like it.
34: Don't ask him to do anything all week. Let him just relax.
35: Let him nap. In fact, insist he naps, at least once this week.
36: Make his lunches and have them ready for him everyday this week. Go out of your way to make them special.
37: Praise him verbally at least once a day.
38: Wii night with the kids!
39: Get dressed up everyday. Let him know it's for him.
40: Have the kids help making a special meal for him. Set the table nicely, get the kids dressed up, have a meal you all love. Enjoy the night.
41: Take at least an hour every night to simply cuddle with your husband. A little physical touch goes a long way.
42: Be extra kind. Be very aware of how you are dealing with your husband and children. Don't yell, don't snap. Let kindness permeate your life this week.
43: Don't complain, let only pleasantness pass your lips this week.
44: Have the kids make him breakfast in bed. Spend the morning cuddling as a family. Make a backup meal in case the kids meal turns out really bad. :P
*****WARNING: These next things are sexual in nature. Nothing graphic, but lets be honest wives out there, our husbands are sexual beings. To neglect these things from this list would be a shame. I debated a long time about putting these in here, but the Bible talks a lot about sex between husbands and wives, and God delights in sex in marriage, so we should too. So here goes.******
45: Initiate sexual activities. There really is no better way to let your husband know you still think he's sexy.
46. Whisper to him how much you want him. At least ONCE this week. In public is better.
47: Wear something you knew he finds you unbearably sexy in. If this is underthings... let him know you're wearing them in a public place, or while he's at work.
48: Do something in bed you aren't super fond of, but he loves. Revel in it. Learn to enjoy it. Take pleasure in knowing that his pleasure is your pleasure.
49: Tease him. Touch him intimately through out the day until all he can think about is you. Make sure to follow through at night.
51: Spend some time honestly talking about your sex life with your husband. Listen, don't take offense if he says something you don't like.
So there you have it ladies! My list! I'm going to start this next Sunday! I'll let you know how it goes!